WHO THE F CARES WHY?

Happy Claire Your Mind Monday, my loves!

How many times do you think, "I don't know why I attract the same kind of emotionally unavailable partner?" or  "I don't know why I can't let go of a break-up from someone who didn't even treat me well!" 

PERHAPS YOU DO KNOW WHY...

You're well aware that you're continuing an unhealthy unconscious pattern passed down from a parent, or a scarring situation at school as a kid launched you onto a path of unworthiness in a particular area of your life as an adult.

Today I'd like to offer, WHO THE F CARES WHY?!

Is it helpful to connect the dots?  Sure.  But fixating on the why helps you to continue to play out and identify with the STORY THAT IS NO LONGER SERVING YOU.  

What about DOING SOMETHING ABOUT IT IN THE PRESENT?   You get to decide that you're not a victim of your past TODAY!

I've noticed several clients this week want to get a better understanding of analyzing the situation and being in the business of the other person who "hurt them."  

All of that energy is USELESS.  

Instead, come back to the now.  Ask TWO of my favorite Byron Katie questions:

Who would I be without this thought?  and  What is PERFECT about this situation?   

Perhaps who you'd be without the thought is someone who puts more energy into her career, her health, or her social life... 

Perhaps the situation is perfect because it's inspiring you to connect deeper within and wake you up from unconscious beliefs that haven't served you for way too long.  

If you truly have a stronger desire to FEEL BETTER over attaching to your painful story, you'll do what it takes.  If you know that the thought tools offer you peace in the moment, then KEEP DOING THEM.    

And if the pain is too raw to figure out a new thought, then ALLOW FOR THE PAIN.  This is a CRUCIAL part of the healing process.  

Be with it.  Love yourself so much during it.  Light a candle.  Wrap yourself up in the yummiest blanket.  Cry.  Pray.  Lean on loved ones.  

When you allow the pain to move through you, you'll create space for a new story that serves you.  

But please, for the love of God-- let go of the damn why's of the past that are only distracting you from attaining freedom and peace in the present.  

It's a process, my loves.

Happy Claire Your Mind Monday!  

PS  Are you ready to take this work to the next level and consciously end any unnecessary suffering?!!  Email me: claireyourmindcoaching@gmail.com 

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Are You Too Picky?

I have to laugh at any of my friends watching this (or WITH them?!) because the first thing they'll say is, "Look in the mirror, Claire!"

I never said life coaches didn't need life coaches! 

But today's topic is related to a client who was so used to dudes disappointing her, that when the guy she had been looking for all along showed up, she decided to NITPICK.  

Can you or any of your friends relate to this?!  If so, pass it along!

And email me at claireyourmindcoaching@gmail.com for one on one coaching if you wanna dig a little deeper into any and all defense mechanisms.  

You still have almost two months to finish off 2017 with BANG! 

Happy Claire Your Mind Monday:)  

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I Pissed Off My Client

I Pissed Off My Client

...and I told her to get in line.  Check out why I was THRILLED about this.

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I WANT HIM TO COME BACK!

I WANT HIM TO COME BACK!

Have you ever been so heartbroken that despite all the things that weren't working during the relationship, all you want is the person to come back??

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My Unclaired Mind

My Unclaired Mind

Despite keeping myself occupied with ALL the things I love to do, these last three weeks being by myself in a remote town have definitely reminded me that an idle mind is the devil's playground!   Wanna work with me?  Email me at claireyourmindcoachin@gmail.com

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My Whine About Weinstein

My Whine About Weinstein

I'm hoping that this little vlog will inspire you to look closely at the people in your life who may not be as powerful as Weinstein, but manage to get away with despicable behavior because of who they are, what they do, or how much money/power they have.  

 

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WHAT WILL PEOPLE THINK?!

Happy Claire Your Mind TUESDAY!  Again, I had technical difficulties this week so apologies to my subscribers who aren't connected to me on social media, and are receiving this a day late!

Are you holding back from doing what you love because you're scared of what others will think??

Then this VLOG is for YOU!

As always, please feel free to reach out with any questions or comments.  I'm also taking on a few more clients, so email me at claireyourmindcoaching@gmail.com for details!

 

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Old Wounds and New

Truth: I wanted to hide behind the screen for today's post.  I was feeling way too emotionally vulnerable to speak, so I worked away all morning on writing a post versus taping one, only to have THE WHOLE THING DELETE right as I clicked "publish" on the deadline for it to send to my subscribers.

So my APOLOGIES TO MY SUBSCRIBERS for receiving this a day late!  

Obviously, this is a very small problem compared to what so many are suffering through after last night's tragedy of the Las Vegas massacre.

So here's a quick video I winged on my thoughts about processing old wounds and new.  

If you're having trouble opening the video below, click here.

And if you're interested in enrolling on my Healing Heartbreak Program, please don't hesitate to contact me!  

Much Love from my ever-evolving and perplexed heart,

Claire

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I Said Yes to My Ex! (and why I'm ok with it)

I Said Yes to My Ex! (and why I'm ok with it)

I said yes to my first love despite so much heartache over the years... Watch to see how this Heartbreak Coach justified THAT!

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MY HEARTBREAK STORY

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Without him, I felt like what I imagine a drug addict would feel going through withdrawal.  He had been my external source of love that I wasn’t able to give myself.  I was so desperate to get things back to the way it was in the beginning, that I did my best to accept and forgive his laughable explanations in order to move forward. 

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