Without him, I felt like what I imagine a drug addict would feel going through withdrawal. He had been my external source of love that I wasn’t able to give myself. I was so desperate to get things back to the way it was in the beginning, that I did my best to accept and forgive his laughable explanations in order to move forward.Read More
This week, your Type A perfectionist coach broke a rule and lived on the edge...OK I'm definitely exaggerating, but here's how I embraced being imperfect and why I think life is about progress.
NOT PERFECTION!Read More
I'm beyond overwhelmed by the love and support from last week's post, Heartbreak SUCKS. I heard from people I hadn't seen or spoken to in years, and I truly appreciate the "me-too'ers!" out there who helped dissipate the vulnerability hangover I was experiencing after exposing so much of myself.
This week's post is a follow-up, focusing on the AHA's, gifts, and wins that presented themselves, as I've CONSCIOUSLY begun to process the pain.Read More
Not such a Happy Claire Your Mind Monday for this life coach, folks. Here's a video on THREE TIPS to help navigate you through heartbreak in what I believe to be the most healthy and conscious way.Read More
You would think that because of the last eight years of deep soul-searching and self-exploration through hundreds of self-help books, a disciplined yoga study, life coach training, therapy, meditation, and a bajillion girl-talks, I'd have a lot of the OBVIOUS self-help-shticky-shite figured out. #selfhelpshtickyshite
To be fair, I think I've come a long way since the hot mess I was in my late 20's, but certain things like ummmm…. FEAR for example, continue to creep up and terrify me in ways that I admittedly assure my clients are just silly tricks the mind is playing on them.Read More
As a recovering People Pleaser myself, I totally got it when a client shared this limiting belief during our session last week. When I think of the countless birthday parties, second dates, bridal showers, housewarmings, engagement parties and third dates I've gone on because it would have been rude to say "no," I've often wondered what the hell I would have done with all that valuable time I gave away.Read More
My best friend Heather and I often use this codependent gem when we part ways, out of fear of sitting alone with our own pain or personal stresses. As sad as it sounds, it’s really our twisted sense of humor that gives us a good chuckle at our own expense, and for me, a strong sense of comfort that I have someone in this isolating City of Angels to call my ROCK.
That said, I'm acutely aware when I find myself leaning on loved ones to make me feel better instead of going back to my big-ass toolbox and do the real work-- the HARDER work on myself.Read More
Nope. This is not a misleading title. It's legit happening and my absence of #claireyourmindmonday posts for the last two weeks may have a thing or two to do with it... For those of you who don't know, my horrific romantic relationships from my mid-twenties to early thirties are what ultimately inspired me to become a yoga teacher and a life coach.
That period of my life was brutally painful, and as tempting as it is to go on a tirade about how douchey and immoral the men I chose were, it's most important I can now say how grateful I am for the eye-opening lessons I was supposed to learn, leading me to the most fulfilling work in my life to date.Read More
This week's post is inspired by my therapist who reminded me of the famous quote below by Marianne Williamson. There's been a lot of positive change in my life over the last few months since posting Resolutions Shmesolutions, which supports my firm belief that when you consciously acknowledge your pain and fears, a magical shift occurs. (Name it to tame it!) But WHEN ALL THE GOOD I've been craving for so long STARTED TO ACTUALLY HAPPEN, a whole other host of issues came with that.Read More