If Only I Didn't...


…behave so poorly.

…send that accusatory email.

…stoop to his level.

There was a running theme of regret amongst friends and clients this past week.

We’ve all been there: wishing we could rewind time so that we could get a second chance at acting differently, and therefore control the outcome to be the opposite of what it is right now.


Do you know how I know it is exactly the way it is supposed to be??

Your flawed and shameful behavior included?



wait for it…

Drumroll for the eyeroll pleeeeeassse…

When you argue with reality, you suffer… but only 100% of the time.


This doesn’t mean we do back-flips over lashing out on our loved ones, and give ourselves a nice pat on the back for our not so emotionally mature behavior.

But it DOES mean we get to take full responsibility and do some deeper digging on what our words and actions were really about, ALL THE WHILE LOVING OURSELVES THE MOST throughout the process.

Because unfortunately, the person on the receiving end of your negative behavior may pull back, judge you, or no longer want to be as close, whether that’s permanent or temporary.

And the natural reaction is to then shame and blame yourself for “effing things up.”


So often, we look for someone else to forgive us, and if they don’t, we ALLOW OURSELVES TO FEEL DOOMED.

But what if your only job was to FORGIVE YOURSELF?

I know— it’s the antithesis of what my early childhood catholic education taught me, BUT we don’t get to control the reactions of our loved ones!

We only get to pull ourselves up my our bootstraps, forgive the past, and do the work on ourselves so that we KNOW we will show up differently in our future.

But Claire, I’m scared I WON’T SHOW UP DIFFERENTLY.

I 100% guarantee you will show up differently in your relationships when you commit to DAILY MINDSET WORK.

Your thoughts create your results.


And if someone isn’t willing to forgive you or no longer wants you in his or her life, that ACTUALLY ISN’T A REFLECTION OF YOU— it’s a reflection of THEM.

I don’t say this from a place of judgement on them.

We are ALL doing the best we can, based on our unique veils of perception that were born from past experiences.

Finally, I’d like to leave you with this:


This doesn’t mean you should hold out hope that the person you disappointed could come running back, but I’ve lived long enough to know that THE RIGHT PEOPLE ARE SHOWING UP AND LEAVING, AT THE EXACT RIGHT TIME.

I had a broken friendship for three years— one I was very resistant to repairing because of MY OWN ANGER and JUDGEMENTS— that is now one of the most meaningful friendships to me.

And there are two men in my life who I had very deep and intimate connections with, who I now consider dear friends— whenever I reach out to them, they’re there, and vice-versa.

I have a chuckle to myself whenever we connect, because my heart at one point had been CONSUMED with them, and when the relationships dissolved, I thought, “NEVER AGAIN!”

But the universe has a savvy way of working if you just show up to the present moment, do the work, and allow the chips to fall where they are SUPPOSED TO.

Surrender. Surrender. Surrender.


I have ONE SPOT LEFT for my one-on-one coaching program.

GAH!!! This makes me SO excited.

I will be taking a break from taking on new clients for the months of October and November, and most likely, MY PRICES WILL GO UP IN DECEMBER.





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Why Am I So Scared to Do the Work?


The running theme in my consultations this past week was:

"I'm SCARED!" 

"What if I f*#@ it up?" 

"If I haven't been able to get to where I want to go up until this point, why will it happen now?"

"What if I invest all this time and money and realize you and I aren't the right fit?"

These are TOTALLY valid questions. 

After all, the brain will look for every excuse to stay in the comfort of your discomfort. 

But here's a little secret:

If you embark on this journey with me, I WANT YOU TO BE SCARED.

Not because I'm a mean coach, but because GROWTH AND CHANGE ARE SUPPOSED TO BE SCARY.

It's safe to say that most of us want the ideal relationship, healthy body, thriving business, and financial freedom...

But the reason some or all of those things aren't coming into fruition is because of your THINKING. 

Your thoughts create your results. 


And if you've habitually been thinking:

"dating is hard,"

"my body will never be perfect,"

"who am I to build my own business?"

...the likelihood is you'll struggle in those areas.

As proud as I was of my small but steady life-coaching business over the last two and a half years, it wasn't until I actually applied the tools and got a business coach to help MANAGE MY THINKING around raising my prices and asking for a longer time commitment from my clients.

My Irish Catholic guilt kicked in about charging more for my services, but then I realized:


And I know this because when I made the bigger financial investment and time commitment with my own coach, the more determined and committed I was to not mess around, and CREATE THE ABUNDANT RESULTS that have now BEAUTIFULLY unfolded over the last two months. 

It is SO scary and uncomfortable to rewire your brain to think differently. 


Staying idle and committing to change are BOTH SCARY.

But one of those choices will bring SO MUCH MAGIC, FREEDOM, ABUNDANCE AND HAPPINESS. 

So why not choose the scary path with the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow???

Irish Catholic Guilt-Free to BOOT!



PS I HAVE TWO SLOTS LEFT FOR MY ONE ON ONE COACHING PROGRAM.  You have a little less than 4 months of 2018 to finish it off with a BANG.  What are you waiting for?   Email me to schedule a session to scare the shite out of yourself:) 




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Being Your Best In Pain


Happy Long Weekend, Loves!  

This week was an ABSOLUTE DOOZY for me, on multiple levels.  

I'm not at a point where I have a desire to share the nitty gritty as I continue to process and heal the multiple triggers, but what I DO WANT TO SHARE, is HOW I SHOWED UP IN MY LIFE, despite the physical and emotional overwhelm I was experiencing.  

On one particular day, I was riddled with anger and sadness--the kind of pain that made my heart physically hurt, my body go into a panic, and caused my resistance to reality to become a total BEAST.  

Of course these reactions frustrated the life coach within-- after all, I'm the QUEEN of preaching that when you argue with reality, you suffer.  

But boy did I argue and therefore suffer, with full awareness that doing so made me FEEL LIKE SHITE.  

I did what I tell all my clients to do-- BE WITH THE PAIN.  Breathe through it.  When you're ready, plug your thoughts into the model, and see what you can reach for that feels better, but still TRUE.  

I did those things, but STILL DIDN'T FEEL BETTER.

I went for a walk, but STILL DIDN'T FEEL BETTER.  

I went to yoga, but STILL DIDN'T FEEL BETTER.

And then I went into MORE PANIC.  


I have a consultation in TWO HOURS, and I feel MOST UNCLEAN to deliver to this wonderful human who's showing up and sharing her story with me for the first time.

I ALMOST didn't reach out to my coaching accountability partner, because I felt so much shame for not being able to Claire My OWN Mind.  

And I almost didn't reach out to my coaching group where my coach is always available, because I didn't want to hear that I should probably cancel and make sure I'm clean for my call at another time.

But then something in me knew better.  

I had done all I could for myself, and I realized that if I'm too proud to take this to the right people who will hold the space and never tell me what to do, but ask me the questions I need to answer to come to the right decision for ME, then how can I expect my clients to rely on me for when THEY ARE IN THE SAME SITUATION??  

Life coaches need life coaches!   

I'm usually pretty proud to say that I HAVE TWO COACHES, but on that day, I was ALSO AFRAID that what if my rage and pain were stronger than the love and expertise of my brilliant coaches and community?  

But what pushed me to reach out was that I knew I would want my clients to do the same.  

Practice whatchya preach, girl.

And what I got back were the most beautiful gems of wisdom, that cracked my heart open and made me shed more tears-- but ones of relief.

Claire, Do you think it’s possible for you to be CLEAN for your consult even if you’re experiencing the pain in your personal life? Is it possible to allow for both to be in your realm of possibility and not have one impact the other in a negative way? What if you can be absolutely EXTRA AMAZING (because you are) in your consult, while you’re still dealing with your pain?

I was blown away by Kathryn's immediate response, which reminded me of my experience at rock bottom 7 years ago and I was teaching a ton of yoga.  Right before every class, I thought, "There's no way I can get through this."  But I did, and my whole being would completely shift by serving others and doing what I love.

I responded to these beautiful, poignant questions that I had an automatic resounding YASSSSSSSS to.

I 100% CAN show up for this potential client in my pain without shame or resistance.  I have NEVER preached that this life coaching work is about feeling amazing 24/7, and sometimes I'm going to be in pain while I coach, which is TOTALLY OK!  

I was also offered an amazing gem by incredible coaching partner, Danielle:

Maybe the thing she's looking to hear from you today will be the exact thing you're needing to hear from yourself.  

GAAAHHHH!!!!!  And boy was she right.  The theme of the call was about standing in your authentic truth, regardless of what others will think and say.  

I stood in my truth this week multiple times, but the reactions weren't to my liking, which is TOTALLY OK!  I wouldn't have had it any other way because I LOVE that I express my truth, no matter what.  

So, what do you think ended up happening?  

The ownership of my pain without judgment and letting it be, allowed for one of the best consultations I'd ever given.  (**please note-- I didn't SHARE the info with the potential client, but I didn't push my experience out of the conversation either) 

She was highly complimentary over what I'd offered her, and we're going to follow-up on working together this week!  

I love how this work keeps pushing me to the next level.  

I love that I practice what I preach and have the ability to admit falling on my face or feeling stuck in my own life, while I still know I feel so clear about helping you with yours!

Blindspots are inevitable when we are the stars of our own movies.  

That's why we have tools and jin communities with those who know how to elevate our whole being, so that we can grow and thrive, vs spiral and hide.  

Where are you stuck?  

What blocks are holding you back from moving through your pain, and ultimately thriving from it?   

I encourage you to say "boy bye" to your shame, and take a chance on a FREE CONSULTATION with me to get you to where you want to go.

Pain will inevitably be a part of this growth journey, but so GODDAMN worth it.

Have a wonderful long weekend, my loves.





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My 12-Year-Old Self (Pic Included!)

My 12-Year-Old Self (Pic Included!)

Yes my parents loved me unconditionally but they didn’t know I was obsessively comparing myself to Brenda Walsh's tiny physique every Thursday night when I tuned in to Beverly Hills 90210.

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My Coach Interviewed Me on Her Podcast!

I have been working with an AMAZEBALLS coach over the last two months!  

Stacey Smith created a business program-- DIVA BUSINESS SCHOOL-- which I've decided was LITERALLY MADE FOR ME, so that I could take my life coaching business to the next level.

For so long, my personal growth work had been focused on healing my heart-- not just in intimate relationships but with ALL relationships.

Now that I felt pretty clear on how to consciously navigate my relationships, (of course we never know who will appear in our lives to ruffle some feathers but I feel EQUIPPED to handle it with my ginormous toolbox!) I decided it was time to start DATING MY BUSINESS!

Stacey was the perfect fairy godmother to appear in my life, and my business has grown exponentially as a result of my work with her-- not just on how to better market and sell myself, but on SHIFTING MY MINDSET.  

Since recording this podcast, I've grown my business to a place where I NEVER in a MILLION YEARS would have believed could happen in such a short period of time.  

Because of my work with Stacey, I'm now going to Cabo in November to learn even more from her and meet this incredible Diva Business School tribe I've been searching for over the last 2.5 years I've been a coach. 

And I was able to give notice to leave my job as a personal assistant, which I've had for the last 4 years, as I've juggled auditions and a small but steady group of coaching clients.

To say I'm ECSTATIC and couldn't shout this woman from the mountain tops even higher, IS AN UNDERSTATEMENT!  

CHECK OUT THE PODCAST HERE!  It's the BONUS between episodes 46 & 47.

WARNING-- I F-BOMB A LOT.  And maybe cry.  


Finally, I'm offering an AWESOME deal to GO ALL IN on working together for a YEAR with me!   OFFER EXPIRES SEPT 1st! 

What were your 2018 goals?  Have you met them?  If not, WHY NOT?

This is NOT an opportunity to shame yourself, but an opportunity to DECIDE:


You still have FOUR MONTHS to turn this stuff around!  

MESSAGE ME FOR A FREE CONSULT so we can discuss how I can guide you in MAKING YOUR DREAM A REALITY!!!  

Lots of love,



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Why My Business is BOOMING All of a Sudden

Why My Business is BOOMING All of a Sudden

My relationship with myself as a female entrepreneur was still mired in all kinds of effed-up, unworthy, Irish Catholic guilt that was blocking me from THRIVING in my business!!!!

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Who Would You Be WITHOUT the Thought?

Who Would You Be WITHOUT the Thought?

My client special requested I write about the poignant question, WHO WOULD YOU BE WITHOUT THAT THOUGHT?,  designed by my idol, Byron Katie.

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I Jumped on the Shame Train!

I Jumped on the Shame Train!


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Second Article on The Everygirl!

So proud to share He Kissed Me...and Then Unmatched Me, which was recently published on The Everygirl!  

Even my friends IN RELATIONSHIPS felt they could relate, not just because of their past dating experiences...

but because of the continued HABIT of wanting to SPIRAL when something or someone doesn't live up to their desired expectations.

Please share with anyone who THINKS she's "going through it" on her dating journey.

Finally, if you're interested in my one on one coaching program, email me to sign up for a FREE CONSULTATION!

Happy Claire Your Mind Monday!





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Can anyone else relate to feeling anxiety when the thing they want to have happen, ACTUALLY STARTS HAPPENING??

That's what's happening for me with the rapid expansion of Claire Your Mind this past month.  

As I mentioned in I FELL OFF THE WAGON a few weeks back, I decided to FULLY COMMIT to my business in a whole new way, and the results have been INCREDIBLE...


Check out how I'm currently shifting my mind-made bullshit, so that I can FULLY ENJOY this amazing time.


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