Why Personal Growth SUCKS

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And I call myself a life coach?! Stay with me here…

There’s a running theme occurring with my clients who aren’t all necessarily going through heartbreak…

SOME ARE ACTUALLY GETTING WHAT THEY’VE WANTED!!!

One just DTR’d (defined the relationship— had to think about that one myself when she texted it me!) with the guy she’s seeing.

Another just had an EPIC birthday weekend getaway with her closest friends who live out of state and all made her 30th an amazing one.

And a third, finally got the opportunity to relocate to another state with her family, after wishing and hoping for it for SO. LONG.

Yet—they all admitted—their thoughts were NOT ALL excited ones. Actually, they were freaking out more than doing backflips.

Before you go into judgment and think, WHAT’S WRONG WITH THESE PEOPLE?!, I invite you to pause and recall a time when you finally achieved something you’ve been working towards that you felt was out of reach, but chose to panic vs celebrate.

My client who DTR’d initially came to me because she was healing from a narcissistic abusive relationship— my WHEELHOUSE— so when someone new and fabulous comes along, her brain wants to prepare for the other shoe to drop. (HELLO, I’ve DEFINITELY been there!)

My client who was a QUEEN on her 30th had been doing a TON of emotional healing work after years of living with a chronic illness. She’s also wrapping up several trainings in functional medicine, yoga teacher training, and becoming a health coach, so after just turning 30, is wondering what the hell it’s all gonna look like after stepping away from the corporate world while doing all she can to live her best life, all the while managing inevitable physical flare-ups.

And despite some initial excitement, my client who’s finally moving closer to family, the big change involves spending a lot of money relocating, time selling her home and finding a new one, while also working a full-time job, raising a three-year-old, finding her a new school, and committing to her personal training certification.

I certainly relate to this fear and anxiety that comes with the GOOD, thanks to the recent rapid growth in my business that I’ve been wanting to create for over 2.5 years, while continuing to audition, stay on top of personal coaching with my coaches, and also being available for my 15 clients…and DATES— because I ACTUALLY MISSED DATING after taking a break while focusing on building Claire Your Mind.

But here’s the thing…

I would RATHER have anxiety attacks, a few sleepless nights, and have stress manifest in my neck in shoulders thanks to PANICKY THOUGHTS IN THIS NEW ELEVATED SPACE, than continue to sit in the comfort of my discomfort of staying small.

Being that I do what I do, I HAPPEN TO KNOW THAT THIS KIND OF DISCOMFORT IS PAR FOR THE COURSE, and in fact IS THE SUCKY PART ABOUT PERSONAL GROWTH.

Our brains are NOT comfortable when we break through the blocks that hold us back from thriving…

The signal of CHANGE — even a POSITIVE one— makes us feel like something isn’t right because we are habitual beings, NATURALLY COMFORTABLE IN THE DISCOMFORT of attracting shitty men, being a slave to chronic illnesses, or feeling like we’ll be “trapped” in places we don’t want to be.

So what it comes down to is, IS THE DISCOMFORT FROM THE MIND SPIRALING and PANICKING, WORTH GETTING TO WHERE YOU WANT TO GO?

Some people don’t think it is because it would mean ACTUALLY leaving the spouse who treats them poorly and they’d feel too guilty about the effect it would have on their kids.

Or it isn’t worth saying no to the extra slice of pizza because the emotion they’d feel by NOT satisfying the craving is more painful than carrying the extra weight on their bodies.

Or cutting off complete contact with an ex would mean truly not knowing what they’re up to and ACTUALLY moving on vs. holding on.

All totally understandable reasons to stay in the comfort of your discomfort.

Of course I would encourage you to strive to tap into being your most healthy and authentic self, even if it entails hurting your loved ones and/or feeling all the painful and scary feels, but all I’d like to offer you today is WHY NOT GET CLAIRE EITHER WAY? (no I’ll never stop with the dorky puns)

Because if you’re that girl who says, I know I need to do X but now isn’t the time or I don’t have the money, know that your mind can justify those excuses to the very end.

CHANGE ALWAYS COMES FROM WITHIN.

When I shifted my thoughts about my worth as a female entrepreneur, THAT’S when the high-paying clients came.

When I worked tirelessly on my worth as a romantic partner, THAT’S when I started attracting lovely guys who treat me the way I know I deserve to be treated.

And hell, I’m probably the least fit I’ve been in a long time, but I can honestly say I haven’t felt more beautiful because I’m so proud of the PERSON I see when I look in the mirror… It makes me teary to type this truth after so many years of berating my body, thinking that “ONE DAY, I’ll get it perfect so that I can book the right job and find the right guy.”

What’s the thing you want to change and heal most about yourself? Or that one goal you’ve been thinking about as just a pipe dream??

If you AGREE that committing to retraining your brain is the gateway towards making that happen, KNOWING this will cause your brain to FREAK OUT and therefore cause your body to go into FEAR AND PANIC, is it WORTH all that to get to where you want to go???

I for SURE can say it’s been TOTALLY been worth it for me, and I’ll go out on a limb and say it’s TOTALLY been worth it for my clients too…

After all, if it sucks to stay stuck in your shite AND it sucks to grow in order to get where you want to go, WHY NOT CHOOSE THE ONE THAT HAS THE LIGHT AT THE END OF THE TUNNEL?

BUT if the pain ISN’T worth the gain, instead of berating and judging yourself for NOT taking the leap, find compassionate THOUGHTS that will allow you to make peace, and LOVE where you’re at NO MATTER WHAT.

Self-blame and shame is for the BIRDS, my loves.

What decision can you get CLAIRE on and make peace with?

IF you decide you DO want to grow, contact me for a FREE CONSULTATION and get on my waitlist to work with me when my doors reopen for more one on one coaching!

HAPPY CLAIRE YOUR MIND MONDAY!

XOXO

Claire

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