It continues to amaze me that people think I’ve got my shite all figured out, being that I’m a life coach. Aw contraire mes amis! I do have a high level of self-awareness so I find it easy to articulate whatever's going on in my head and my heart, but that doesn’t mean stuff doesn’t bother or worry me on a daily basis!
Lately I’ve had a lot on my plate both personally and professionally. As a result, I find myself more irritable with little to no motivation to keep up with my own self-care routine.
I unloaded all of this to my fabulous life coach this past week and the first question she asked was, “How are you connecting with your body outside of your regular yoga practice?”
It’s a question I often ask my own clients but when it was addressed to me, I was quick to assure her I’m suuuuuper connected to my body even when I’m not meditating or eating well.
I check in with my breath multiple times a day! When I'm sitting at a red light, brushing my teeth, picking up groceries, etc.
I was proud to share this with Danielle until she caught me off guard with her next question: “Ok great, but then what?”
I was stumped for a second and then it hit me.
Having awareness about what’s actually happening in the present moment is a HUGE component of a mindfulness practice, but I realized I was eye-rolling the whole process.
I was farthest away from being a compassionate witness to the worry and fear in my heart, which was exactly what was missing in order for me to feel better.
Since my session with Danielle, I’ve been a lot more kind to myself when I feel I’ve bitten off more than I can chew, or my many fears about the unknown pop up.
As cheesy as it sounds, I’ve been saying phrases out loud like, “Claire, it’s ok. You’re kicking ass and it’s all going to work out.”
Or I put my hand on my heart and silently say, “I love you. You’re doing great. This is an old story that isn’t fucking true.”
Yes, it’s hard. Yes, I get teary. And YES:
It really does make me feel better.
This is why life coaches need life coaches!
That one simple question made me realize I’d been working so hard for so long to be with and surrender to all that's happening both externally and internally, because I was afraid of denying or exploding my uncomfortable feelings after having done so for so many years.
But there comes a time when the same shite keeps popping up, or actual good change takes place which then invites a whole ‘nother host of worries, that our greater selves need to take over and speak the loving truth to the wounded lil bird inside us.
It’s been a lovely shift since I’ve incorporated conscious kindness towards myself this past week.
My sessions with clients have been extra rewarding. I met a lovely fellow (cue the major F-off to the voice in my head), and I find myself genuinely feeling a strong sense of appreciation for the beauty that surrounds me in Lala Land, and the incredible sense of love for my friends and family, both near and far.
I dare you to try some conscious kindness towards yourself this week! What gnawing story do you keep indulging that no longer serves you? Can you honor the discomfort and then speak the loving truth? Let me know what happens!
Happy Claire Your Mind Monday. I'll be Clairing my mind next Monday for Labor Day, so I'll see you in two weeks!